Double Time - Jane Roper
Released May 2012
St. Martin's Press
Book Review by Tracy Farnsworth
Jane Roper's Double Time takes a very poignant and often hysterical look at parenting twins. This book made me laugh, brought tears to my eyes, and occasionally brought out the "Oh, I've been there and know..." moment.
I'm a mom, not of twins, but while pregnant for the third time, I miscarried two months into the pregnancy. A month later, I was sicker than ever before and returned to the doctor. She discovered I was still in fact pregnant. I was told that miscarrying one twin and having the second twin survive is more common than you'd think. It broke my heart that I lost a twin, especially when this was my second miscarriage - my first pregnancy ended during the fourth month of pregnancy - but I was also overjoyed at the thought that I did have one survivor who hung in there.
It's for that reason that I spent some time jealous of the author's pregnancy and resulting birth that led to twin daughters. I know she struggled, but then as a mom of two, having one child isn't a walk in the park either. I obviously haven't had twins, I have, however, mentored a teen who had twins when she was 16 and I would take the twins overnight to give her a break. They slept through the night from the moment she brought them home. I remember waking up in the middle of the night freaking out that they'd stopped breathing because they'd never wake up in the wee hours. They'd go down at 9 p.m. and wake up at 6 a.m. like clockwork. Every baby is different, so what the author experiences as a mother of twins may or may not be what someone else with twins goes through.
A few other things I noted while reading the book. One of them is rather personal, but the author makes a comment about the changes to her breasts after she'd finished nursing. I also dropped a cup size, but the thing that really cracked me up was the change in nipple size. Been there and I don't understand why it happens. My best friend and I simply can't come up with a reasonable explanation for that or why our feet increased by a size after pregnancy...
Another involved how child rearing should get easier, not harder, as the children aged. I'm not sure how old the author's twin daughters are now, but I warn her that once they hit teens, you simply aren't prepared. My son was a breeze, always has been, but the "girl drama" that my daughter goes through during a school day hits with the force and unexpectedness of a freak thunderstorm. Moods change frequently, and no one told me just how hard it can be.
That's what Double Time became for me. It's so refreshing to read another mom's experiences raising her kids. We all have our struggles and sometimes it's nice to hear another's issues and commiserate.